How To Have Steamy Phone & WebCam Sex With The Person You Love
Because "Passionships" Need Magic to Sustain Lifelong BLISS
Getting it on virtually with your boyfriend or girlfriend can seem intimidating, but knowing how to have phone sex, FaceTime sex or Zoom sex can heat things up for couples in long-distance relationships and quickly become something you both enjoy ... a lot.
Even if the distance isn't an issue for you and the person you love, virtual sex can be a fun way to spice things up and explore sexual fantasies in the context of your relationship. More important, it is a great boon to mental and physical health because every spicy moment brings happy brain chemistry flooding into you and your partner.
Getting up the courage to try having some steamy, long-distance cyber-sex for the first time can be challenging for even the most empowered women, especially if you're a woman who is naturally shy or was raised to show restraint at all times.
To avoid any awkwardness, here are 5 tips on how to have hot phone sex (or virtual sex via FaceTime or Zoom) with the man you love from a distance.
1. Become his inspiration
Many men feel they have to do all the "heavy lifting” in relationships when it comes to getting you in the mood, getting you excited, and even thinking up and acrobatically moving you into a variety of different positions during sex.
For some men, it seems like an endless struggle, as though they're like Sisyphus, the king of Corinth in Greek mythology, who was forced to roll an immense boulder up a hill, only for it to roll back down when it approached the top, on a repeating endless cycle.
Try putting yourself in his shoes. Have you ever worked hard to please a guy who just wasn't having it no matter what you tried? You can reach almost any man’s passion core if you take the time to understand his needs and yours.
Being a joyous, ecstatic, and appreciative lover makes each sexual experience more thrilling than the last for both of you.
2. Be responsive
Phone sex is typically initiated by the man. He’s alone and the two of you are either at a physical distance or haven’t reached the in-person sex phase yet.
Many men expect they'll have to be the one who initiates this kind of virtual love-making, and they’re typically happy to do so. But ... what if you kicked it up a notch by making a conscious effort to be more open and engaged?
Try starting off just as excited as he is, which is easier to do if you get yourself into the mood before the call begins.
This one simple strategy can make you unforgettable, which is one step closer to being irreplaceable in a man's eyes.
3. Tap into your "gold medal" memories
Most of us have at least a few memories of favorite sexual experiences from our past that were so sizzling, so perfect, and so intense you think of them over and over again.
Whether you made these memories with your current boyfriend or not, try tapping into and re-experiencing them to get yourself in the mood before you call, Zoom, or FaceTime him. You'll feel so sexy and you’ll both become inspired within minutes.
When you start off at least 75 percent excited, it’s easy to push both of you way up to the highest summit of thrills. What is particularly thrilling to him about this is most men have been educated to understand that their body takes much less time to rev up than a woman’s. This puts a damper on spontaneity for many of them. Now if you are the exception, the woman who is “good to go” with him and it’s authentic, then he will feel so special, so thrilled and so adored.
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4. Explore each other's sexual fantasies
One of the best ways to get steamy is to ask your partner to describe his favorite sexual fantasies — what he wants to do with you most and how he would like to do it.
5. Find out what he wants and needs most
Everyone has unique preferences and desires. Stay deeply connected to his voice and hear everything he says so you know what's working and what's not.
As you grow into the kind of unselfconscious lover you've always dreamed of being while having sex with the man you love, you invite him to merge with you in a meaningful way.
When each of you is ready for deep intimacy and love, there will be no room left for a third party to come between you. As you become more and more connected, you'll likely find that neither of you has an interest in additional partners because THIS IS BLISS.
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Susan Allan is a certified mediator and communication expert who helps couples find perfect passion in their sex lives. For a complimentary session, email her or visit her website.